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Should you quit nursing?

I am on nightshift feeling a little down after being told that I would have to push back my resignation date by a few weeks. But the disappointment I feel is inconsequential in light of the joy I am feeling right now. Jash and I have great plans ahead of us and we are so totally in sync, that we both feel like there is a force within us that’s just pushing us forth. We’re unafraid and taking the risks we stopped ourselves from taking so many times before. I am feeling quiet invincible right now, so it would be a bummer if a boulder fell on my head right now and killed me dead because I am at a point in my life where I understand enough about myself to know that I have always been capable of seeing my dreams through.

It’s so ridiculous how dumb we are when we are younger. We complain about the silliest things and we are so busy whining about our little lives, that we don’t see the magic right in front of our eyes. It’s absolutely beautiful once you open your eyes! I could cry for the younger me for being so emo but I won’t, because I know that it was the perfect spot to be in back then, to get where I am right now.  I can’t help falling in love with life. I was told today by my good friend Vana that I am a romantic. I laughed so hard. I was never a romantic. Ask my sister Shady. I hated men, I hated life, I hated myself, I hated broccoli, I hated school and I’d just hate, hate, hate and hate everything.

I had this idea in my head that our planet is a prison and we’re doomed to suffer through it, without even knowing what we are being convicted for. I think one of the reasons we feel trapped is because society enforces rules that tell you that you have to live a certain way and achieve certain things by a certain age or you’d get labeled a failure. What they won’t tell you, is that your life is like a canvas and you’re the artist. You are allowed to do with it as you please without having to conform to the norms of society (save for being a psychotic murderer which will result in your own destruction). Right now, I constantly have projections of myself twirling in the freedom of my creativity. And I know for a sweet and solid fact that I am making the right decision and that I should quit nursing. I'm leaving it all behind, I'm gone!

Quit nursing! Arkadia has left the building!Image source: www.reviewjournal.com

People are always asking me why I want to quit nursing. What’s so bad about nursing? Well..everything..and nothing. It’s an awesomely challenging career and it’s not for the faint at heart. It’s for people that can handle the gruesome reality of life with a smile on their face and a skip in their step. You need to pull out an endless supply of energy from within you to be a supportive and solid force, guiding tormented people back to health or leading them peacefully to death, without losing your mind. I have met such people. They work hard, they put others first, they fight to keep the integrity of nursing in tact despite the many obstacles they are faced with. I would gladly name those nurses here if it weren’t for the fact that I am trying to keep the identity of my hospital quiet. Does that mean I didn’t have what it takes to be like them?

When I first started nursing, I was flooded with emotions and my mind was constantly stimulated. I was learning valuable life lessons. I cried when a patient died. I smiled when a patient got better. But as the years went by, a feeling of indifference began creeping over me and suddenly, no matter how hard I tried, I wasn’t feeling anything anymore.

I remember an elderly man I had nursed when I was a student. He told me all about his children and how much he loved them and he seemed to glow with pride as he spoke of them. He reminded me so much of my grandfather. Gentle and family orientated. He died that night. I felt like I had lost my own grandfather and I couldn’t bare it. I sat alone in the office and cried the whole night feeling that he had been wronged in some way. I know that as nurses, you grow to accept death as a norm, but recently I lost a patient and felt absolutely nothing. Is it okay to feel nothing? Maybe it’s time I moved on? Can you be a nurse when you can’t feel those basic emotions? Perhaps it’s necessary to become that way for the sake of your own sanity. Despite this, I would never be a sloppy nurse, I always take care to complete my tasks accurately and responsibly, but that feeling of indifference leads me to believe that I have given everything I could give and I have learnt everything I need to learn from this experience.

There are definitely other things about the job that I found frustrating, like the steady decline in the integrity of nursing, the way that nurses are undermined, the political upheaval in this country, the feeling of non-achievement when you have to do the same thing everyday and the general repugnance of the job itself. But all of those things are overcome by the nurse that’s driven by her love for the job. I am not that nurse.

Health care workers are often plagued by the problem of becoming desensitized to the things they deal with on a daily basis. There is a word for that condition but the “word gnome” stole it out of my head. My question is, is that desensitization good for you and your patient? Should you continue in the “caring profession” when you reach that point? I chose not to. I want to feel things, and after making a risky change by quitting nursing, I am feeling again. I am feeling good!
 
I apologize for the lengthiness of this entry but I thank all two of you that managed to stay with me right up to this point (which I am sure has nothing to do with the fact that you are my unpaid editors). You are loved! ūüôā
 

  • Crossoverfit2004

    Thank you for this entry.  it could have been longer as you reflected more on your career and maybe researched this more with the support of some science articles.
    I feel I am done with this career in nursing. Not because of he theories or science or even relational part of nursing but for the realities of nursing. The nursing environment is unhealthly and nurses continue to work in it without coalition of action against the abuse. The career sounds like the old miners work environment until the government understood the issues.I could go on. I am also frustrated with the education I received to be a nurse. If this schools and educators are so sure about what they teach maybe they should go to the government and articulate what we cant. Nothing at this point is concrete or gelling ¬†for the individual nurse…that is right, a professional nurse is alone or isolated unless she makes friends instead of being respected. So if we are not the only ones. what now?
    what do we do about this? is there any other jobs outside of the cookie cutter jobs available? Why is suffering such a business? why are those genuinely wishing to nurse for the client penalized for not working for the institution.
    thanks

    • Arkadia

      Hi there! Thanks for reading my post and taking the time to respond. ūüôā You sound like I did the last few months before I quit nursing. Believe me, I know how you’re feeling! If you’re like me, it won’t take long before you get so fed up with the hassle that you see no option but to find a way out!¬†

      Some of my “favorite” parts about nursing: the shrieking relatives and crazy patients that¬†
      treat you like you’re the scum scraped off the bottom of their shoe. The rude doctors that blame you for everything that’s wrong with the world. The whip-cracking supervisors that pay more attention to their stupid clipboards than they do to you and your silly complaints about being understaffed, underpaid, overburdened, and stressed out. Who cares what you’re going through as a nurse? I watched nurses deteriorate at alarming levels. Back problems, heart problems, stress, anger, depression. It was painful to watch and I told myself I wouldn’t get to that point. I would find a way out before I turned into a bitter old nurse that hates life. The truth is, I came very close to that point before I actually decided to call it quits! I was short with people, I would call in sick (something I despised doing before I started burning out), I was angry, depressed, too exhausted to even watch a movie and I was unintentionally taking it all out on my family. I have been able to handle the brunt of some really hopeless situations and I don’t give up too easily but nursing has degraded to a point where even the strongest of us would snap under the pressure.

      If you’re reaching breaking point, it’s really important that you look for alternatives. I found my exit on the internet. I now create websites for a living and I’m so happy with everything. I’m making actual money now and I don’t have any stress. There are a lot of ways to make money online. Not just as a web designer! There are boundless possibilities! I have been so busy establishing my internet business that I’ve not updated my blog in a goody while! Nursing seems like a distant nightmare. I must admit that there were good things about it too but they were heavily masked by all the negative aspects of it by the time I reached burnout! Don’t even listen to people who say that you should be grateful for your job and you’re in the caring profession so you’re supposed to sacrifice yourself to others. It’s all bull. The people at the top of the chain are supposed to care for the nurses and if they don’t do their part, you simply cannot function as a nurse. It’s just physically impossible! Do yourself a favor and find your nearest exit!¬†

      • Beth Taylor

        Wow… I am so glad to hear from other RN’s who have felt the same way. I’ve been a nurse for 16 years now, and it’s been hard to admit to myself, but I’ve been burned out for quite a while. I actually became a nurse because that’s what my mom wanted me to be, not because I wanted to. Don’t get me wrong; I dare say I’ve taken pride in being very good at it, and I love making people smile. Darn it, I still do! That is the part of nursing I enjoy, and the part of it that has kept me going all of these years. That part that has gone away, now that it has become profit-focused and less patient-focused. It’s all about the bottom line. They (the “suits”) could care less about what actually happens on the floor, what they care about is some piece of paper and getting their precious CMS reimbursement because of a survey, and how few nurses they can get away with staffing in order to make that happen. It doesn’t seem to matter to them that in order to have satisfied patients that they might want to have satisfied nurses- which means, oh- I don’t know, a nurse who’s had time to actually go to the bathroom, eat her lunch, work FULLY STAFFED, not get penalized for calling in because she’s sick after working overtime from covering for her fellow nurses from being sick… Then, you are working 12 hour shifts, you can’t wind down and go to sleep, you have a family- or at least most of us do- and you have demands there. You are cranky from no sleep, and then you are emotionally drained and you have no time to actually SPEND with your patients anymore, which is, like I said, WHY I stayed in it. I ENJOYED listening to their stories, holding their hands, bonding with them. I couldn’t do that anymore. All I barely had time to do was shove pills in their face and say, “Here ya go”. That’s not nursing! I just can’t do that and take pride in that. My mom’s death caused me to take a long hard look at things, and I left. I’ve gone back to what I did I order to get through school and pay for tuition, something that I did that I could do that made people smile: the restaurant and bar business. I’m good at it, and made money at it. Some of my fellow nurses have looked down their noses at me, as if it’s “beneath” them, as if I’m somehow lower than them. That’s fine. I’m the only one who can live my life, and I wish them well.

  • Arkadia

    Hi there! Thanks for reading my post and taking the time to respond. ūüôā You sound¬†like I did the last few months before I quit nursing. Believe me, I know how¬†you’re feeling! If you’re like me, it won’t take long before you get so fed up¬†with the hassle that you see no option but to find a way out!¬†

    Some of my¬†“favorite” parts about nursing: the shrieking relatives and crazy patients that¬†
    treat you like you’re the scum scraped off the bottom of their shoe. The rude¬†doctors that blame you for everything that’s wrong with the world. The whip-cracking supervisors that pay more attention to their stupid clipboards than they¬†do to you and your silly complaints about being understaffed, underpaid, overburdened, and¬†stressed out. Who cares what you’re going through as a nurse? I watched nurses deteriorate at alarming levels. Back problems, heart problems, stress, anger, depression. It was painful to watch and I told myself I wouldn’t get to that point. I would find a way out before I turned into a bitter old nurse that hates life.¬†The¬†truth is, I came very close to that point before I actually decided to call it¬†quits! I was short with people, I would call in sick (something I despised doing¬†before I started burning out), I was angry, depressed, too exhausted to even watch a movie and I was unintentionally taking it all out on my family. I have been able to handle the brunt of some really hopeless situations¬†and I don’t give up too easily but nursing has degraded to a point where even¬†the strongest of us would snap under the pressure.

    If you’re reaching breaking point, it’s really important that you look for alternatives. I found my exit on the internet. I now create websites for a living and I’m so happy with everything. I’m making actual money now and I don’t have any stress. There are a lot of ways to make money online. Not just as a web designer! There are boundless possibilities! I have been so busy establishing my internet business that I’ve not updated my blog in a goody while! Nursing seems like a distant nightmare. I must admit that there were good things about it too but they were heavily masked by all the negative aspects of it by the time I reached burnout! Don’t even listen to people who say that you should be grateful for your job and you’re in the caring profession so you’re supposed to sacrifice yourself to others. It’s all bull. The people at the top of the chain are supposed to care for the nurses and if they don’t do their part, you simply cannot function as a nurse. It’s just physically impossible! Do yourself a favor and find your nearest exit!¬†

  • me

    great! thanks 

  • me

    thanks (continued) ¬†boy, am I glad that after 2 years of researching, I have come to the conclusion that I do NOT want to be one. my plan from the beginning was to become a nurse anesthetist –what reason? well money of course! but I know now that even the money wouldn’t be worth the stress and responsibility of first going to nursing school, being a nurse then going to school again (if I’m even accepted to a nurse anesthetist program , which I heard is very very very hard ) ¬†now I see that money isn’t everything. and there’s something really terrible about being in debt–it makes you feel tied down….so I’ll save myself the debt ¬†I was desperately about ¬†to get myself into at ¬†private institution that promised me now waiting lists for the price of 40,000 a year.(and I did figure that would be able to pay that off soon as a nurse–yeah right, now I know that anything could go wrong). and I always hear about the nursing shortage and blah blah blah and yet I still hear about nursing graduates that have been looking for work for for than a year. ¬†EFF that!!!!¬†I am at the bottom of math and¬†¬†taking basic education and glad that thanks to my little knowledge, it has forced me to take the time to think about my major. I am grateful to be honest that I had a long while to really think about what I was about to get into. maybe I will try to get into some sort of art…or something that will not make me feel so terrible while trying to make a living. thanks! =]

    • Arkadia

      Hi “me” hehe, I’m glad you really thought it out. I dove head first into the deep end of it. Call it pressure I guess, my mum was struggling to pay the bills and my job as a cashier in a shopping center wasn’t doing anything. She asked me to do nursing, I went ahead. I actually cried before going to nursing school (to myself of course, not like a kid going to school for the first time…lol…okay maybe a little like that). While I would never say it was a total waste (I wouldn’t like to think that I wasted 5 years of my life) – I would say it’s not the solution for debt. No ways. No How. It’s probably a LAST resort but definitely shouldn’t be your first option. It should only be considered if you’re going to do it because you actually like the tasks involved. All the good and the bad, otherwise it will suck the life out of you and it will be painful to bare! Take a look at 99designs.com to start. If you’re the artsy type, I bet you’re going to pleasantly surprised at how easily you can make that your bread and butter. My boyfriend and I started using that site 3 years ago, it was my way out of nursing. My boyfriend started making loads of money and gaining clients and I started coding websites (along with some design work). Then I was home free. Away from the strange detour I took into the land of nursing. I’ve never looked back. I’m making much more than I used to as a nurse. I don’t have a million supervisors on my back, I don’t have to work long hours unrewarded, no stress, or gloomy environment. It’s amazing. Don’t give up on your search for the perfect career!

  • Iuy

    I am a male RN. I have worked in the OR at a big medical center hospital for 14 years. I hated it since day one. I was contractually bound for one year once I completed my orientation. I could not leave or else I would be financially obligated to pay a prorated portion of it back. I thought it might be a good job but my first week there I knew it was a huge mistake. The surgeons here were instrument throwing, profanity spewing, insult tossing jerks who were obviously bullied on the playground their entire academic life.
    Talk about being treated like a handmaiden; wait I was a 35.00 an hour handmaiden. You will lose all of your skills and acquire ones that won’t benefit you if you decide to seek another specialty. You don’t start IV’s, mix medications, read ekg’s, or gain any autonomy. You will be reduced to a technical trouble shooter, a gopher, a scrub wearing homosapien who has a bullseye painted on your back.

    • Arkadia

      ¬†Wow Iuy, that sounds like a really familiar story. It seems no matter where you are in the world, nurses experience the same issues. Poor management, lazy staff, political nonsense, overwork, underpay and being underappreciated and abused! Plus there is the issue of studying! I know nurses that are qualified RN’s but they’re still working as LPN’s…the hospital gets her full skill set and knowledge at half the price…we’ve also had the strange issue of hospitals barring you from futhering your studies (even on your own time, at your own cost) – nurses have had to threaten to quit just to be allowed to burn their own cash on their studies. It’s like they try to hold you down! Speaking of those that have no education…I’ve worked with a woman that was pretending to be an RN, fake certificates and she somehow managed to get registered for a licence to practise! Then there are those that have obtained their degrees legally but who are too lazy or too stupid to apply themselves and you have to run behind them, fixing the mess they make!

      It’s tiring, it’s frustrating, you don’t feel like you’re achieving anything, and I think that plays a huge role in nurses reaching that stage of indifference and apathy…even a super nurse has his/her limits and will burn out if the working conditions remain so poor…

      But let’s talk solutions! If you can’t change the hospital (I tried and failed) then change your career! It’s really never too late for that and there are ways to intertwine your nursing knowledge with a new career as a nurse entrepreneur…it’s a trend that’s quickly spreading as nurses try to break out of the prisons that they live in. Nurses are succeeding! They are finding ways to climb out of that hell hole and become successful entrepreneurs! You can get coaches for nurses, yoga for nurses (to destress – see http://www.yoganurse.com) and advice from other nurses all around the net. I am going to make this blog more interactive soon, get a nurses forum up and have nurses post their stories here too, and I will be posting about some of the things nurses can consider doing to get a ticket out of the hospital scene. There is room for everyone to make some $$$ on the internet!

  • Iuy

    Cont.
    You work with people who have no education and most have trouble communicating. To top it off they are so lazy and willing to play the race card at the drop of a hat. You will work with ST’s who have scrubbed for years and every day is still a new day. WTF? Running back and forth to get things they should already have; tiring, oh so tiring. How about weak nurse managers?

  • Iuy

    You know who you are! Then there are those who think they know everything. Truth is you know nothing. And those who make it a practice of eating their own; just get that divorce finally or go out and get laid repeatedly; until you cannot walk. Still wouldn’t do you any good. Smart mouth PA’s; if you want to be that person than go to med school. Next time study harder for your MCAT. Agh. Bitches. Physically I have killed my back and developed a love for wine.

  • Iuy

    It is a brutal job with not enough money. I made some friends and had some lovers. I don’t regret it, I just wish I would not have wasted so much time doing it.

  • Jen

    Ive only been nursing for 3 years and I have hated it since day one. In school I felt alot different, but now that I see what its really like, it saddens me. Short staffed, under payed, high stress. I dont know what to do as an alternative career, but i know nursing isnt for me anymore. I wish someone would have told me before wasting all this time and effort.

    • Arkadia

       Hi Jen,

      Have you found a way out of nursing yet? Keep us posted on how things go!¬† I truly believe in the power of the internet. ūüôā I’m a web developer/designer now but I’ve found so many other places to make money online…you just have to know how to differientiate between good opportunities and scams…

  • Danztam

    Wow this is exactly how I feel! Thank you! What are you doing now?

    • Arkadia

       Hi Danztam,

      I’m a web developer/graphics designer now. Though there’s alot of other options for you online. From blogging, to writing for other sites, and affiliate marketing…there’s a vast number of ways to make money online. None of them promise overnight success but they will promise a ticket out of nursing if you keep at it! ūüôā I started out just entering design contests on crowdsourcing websites like 99Designs and have been loaded with work ever since…nursing is a faraway dream now. Nursing entrepreneurs is the new trend! Get web savvy and you’ll definitely find a way out! ūüôā

  • I was terrorized as a Nurse and Single Mother.¬† My daughter after 22 years of me being an RN just begged me to quit and do something/anything else in her opinion.¬† And I have to admit, she is right.¬† The brutality towards me has been nothing more but monstrotous.¬† Let alone me working like a dog, being an abused one for decades wasn’t enough of an oppression.¬† People who are monsters actually questioned my integrity as an RN, a mother, and everything/anything about me.¬† They even attacked me spiritually and sexually.¬† After I spent the past 16 years being celibate people were calling me as they were spying upon me quoting their moses interpretation.¬† I have decided that after saving a man on flight 733 US Airways, that people are not worthy of me being their nurse due to the terrorist monsters that were enabled by the police to attack and destroy my entire life.¬† Go ask the man who had the stroke on the plane what he thinks of me?¬† Or why not ask those US Marshalls via VIDEO tape for a reference.¬† Apparently that senator wasn’t available for one for people to have been allowed to spy upon me, admit to being sexual deviant perverts and allowed to destroy my life was much more ‘fun’.¬† Many RNs though the years made statements to me that they were in loveless marriages or unhappy relationships due to lowlifes for men always being attracted to them.¬† I felt lucky that I divorced a pieces of shit and ended all and any abusinve relationships with men that did not¬†make me happy.¬† Where my fellow nurses stayed in misery many times.¬† I believe that us being nurses does not entitle people to abuse our kind good natures.¬† Where women who are not nurses stated to me,¬†“the more controlling and mean you are to men, the more they love you for it.”¬† She went on to say, “be a monster of a bitch to everyone and see that it works.”¬† Where in nursing, I would never allow mandations due to having children at home with no rescue call due to hospitals making scheduling errors or problems that were not emergent in nature.¬† One hospital hired me as a per diem labor and delivery then begged me to help them out on their medical surgical unit that was short staffed, where I did, then after 3 days of helping them they threatened my job over madation.¬† I quit.¬† It was Holloween and my kids planned on going without MOM~!¬† It was suddenly uncool to go trick or treating with MOM around.¬† But I still had to be there for them.¬† And not at a job that did not value me at Putnam Hospital in order to threaten me as a helpful, willing to compromise to another unit I did not want to work already, non benefit job to help them out.¬† Therefore, what cowardly idiot attacked and threatened me as a terrorist FBI?¬† I did my job at Stony.¬† Imprison your bred terrorists FBI, because none are worthy to have me as their RN.¬†I felt that way saving that man of his stroke on the plane and I still do even though I went and saved him.¬† Instead of a sex tape video, you were granted a professional one for you to make changes upon your emergency medical protocals on US Airplanes full of returning Americans from Europe.¬† I made my demands clear as far as what I wanted to occur in any other medical emergency.¬† And unlike probably paying someone to be a analyst of what needed to be done, I told them what I demanded for any future medical emergencies for free consultation.¬† Now $$$$.¬† And as a reference, call up that senator and US Marshall for their non-sex video of me in action.¬† Arrest the sexual predators and do your jobs.¬† You would think that after 16 years of celibacy raising children I would be allowed to have my privacies and have sex!¬† OMG what pathetic arrogant idiots for terrorist monsters for people.¬† Arrest Paul DeCesare with his plantation of pot under his desk.¬† Or arrest Devon McCallop for his crystal meth use.¬† Or arrest Sue Ernst for being a coke whore.¬† I have been around these kinds of pathetic people all of my entire life and monsters decided to attack me the NON TERRORIST, NON ILLEGAL DRUG ADDICT.¬† They had no respect for me.¬† Therefore, I have no respect for any of them.¬† I quit nursing.¬† Here is my resignation, Americans.

  • Lennielc56

    very interesting to see that there are others out there that hate nursing. it’s difficult for me to say I hate nursing because that’s all I know right now and I don’t know what else to do now that I’m unemployed because of all of the same reasons that I have read the politics, not appreciated insensitivities the, disrespect from the physicians and even your coworkers. after finishing nursing school I never thought Nursing would make me feel like I was a waitress dope pusher and a maid. now that I’m 57 an unemployed I feel as though it’s too late for a career change. I’m trying not to dread returning to work as a nurse because that’s all I know now so I don’t know what to do.

  • Uceraph

    I’m grateful to find likeminded people on this site. ¬†I’m in my first year of nursing school and I’m already looking for a way out of the profession. ¬†The license is the first step to sidestepping this profession; my licensed nurses, as a student often tell the truth about the profession and turn around and say, “Oh, I shouldn’t say that, you’re a student… That’s no reason you should run away from nursing.” ¬†I’m realizing that there are fewer critical thinking skills involved and many people getting crapped on from some bigger bird or eaten by some bigger fish. ¬†I tolerate my nursing instructor who is a micromanager and patronizing. ¬†I want to be free of nursing school and free of her; I refuse to work for any establishment that involves MDs or Registered Nurses. ¬†I will be putting my skills to use under a Chinese Medicine Practitioner or a Nutritionist until I can become one of either myself. ¬†I’m taking another road, one which is beneficial for my sanity and that actually cultivates HEALTH instead of DISEASE and STRESS at the hands of sincerely STUPID people.

  • Monica

    I actually just quit nursing school, I was supposed to graduate this August but I realized that deep down I got into nursing for all of the wrong reasons: money, family, & bc a few of my friends were doing it. I have been struggling since day 1 of school, I like the interaction with the patients but I only had to deal with 1 at a time since I was a student. After quitting, I really just felt like a weight was lifted off of me & I don’t regret my decision at all.

  • Sue

    I quit nursing about 6 months ago after 20 years in nursing. I knew most of the time I worked in nursing that I didn’t love it. I thought it seemed like a respectable profession and would be rewarding.
    When I finally got the nerve to say I am leaving nursing all I hear is “well if you don’t find something else you can always fall back on nursing”. I hope not, I would literally lose my mind. The few people that understand my decision to leave are nurses of 20 or more years as well and my family who watched my struggle with being something that was draining the life from me for most of my life.
    Finding another job is impossible. Nobody understands that you are willing to do anything and take less money to save your physical and emotional health. I am now providing daycare from my home and I love it. I miss the regular paychecks and ability to make all the overtime you want but I SLEEP AT NIGHT! I SLEEP AT NIGHT! My biggest regret is I didn’t leave sooner.

  • 445liz .

    Hi, This site is great and I’m looking too! I’ve worked in nursing homes, home health care, hospice and hospitals and its all the same! Horrible. I have just started my RN -BSN but I feel like I will just end up with a lot of student loans and nothing more to show for it and I’m getting older to boot-58yrs old,
    any new ideas anyone?? My heart really isn’t into school to be honest.

  • Sue

    Hi Arkadia,

    I, myself is going through the same phase. I am too feeling indifference and dread every morning coming to work every day. The anxiety of not knowing the unknown is a scary thought that haunts me every day before going into work. Before I have set out to be a great nurse! It is hard to be a good nurse while you face so many obstacles each and every day. Nursing has sucked the life out of me that I have become “numb.” My job is becoming routine and I feel so trapped in this profession. I would not recommend this profession to anyone unless they are passionate about it. I am currently taking a break from my job and rethink about my career path, not sure what to make of it. What would you recommend? Any advice is greatly appreciated!

  • Kimberly

    Everyone seems to have similar stories and feelings about being a nurse.
    After 20+ years as a nurse in many different settings I simply left the profession. I mean I packed my stuff one day and resigned. Nursing is a very hard profession to break out of. Most of us feel shamed for leaving. Many of us are the family breadwinners. We have invested years of our lives and not everyone has the financial luxury of going back to school.
    We have been hearing of this emergency nursing shortage for years, while there are waiting lists to get into nursing schools. I could never understand this until now. Nurses are leaving in masses! Millions of nurses in this country, countless nursing organizations, and nothing has been done to fix this problem in all these years! It’s a travesty! We have sacrificed our lives, families, our health, our happiness, our peace, and all for a profession that cares nothing about our wellness! I for one will never go back, not will I encourage anyone to become a nurse. People, if you are entering nursing for money, glory, respect,or security you are in the wrong track!!

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  • Ash B

    On a weekly basis I find myself daydreaming about “getting off the floor”. Nursing is my second career. I worked as a graphic designer for 12 years and had plenty of managerial experience. But it seems to rip at my soul when I keep getting passed over for even assistant manager positions. Its like I’ve hit the ceiling at charge nurse. Don’t get me wrong I love what I do and for the most part the disrespectful patients don’t bother me. I just remind myself they’ll have to answer for their wrongs long before I will. On the other hand, I flat out had a CNO tell me “well it’s hard to break in to the old girls club.” What does that even mean? It’s like the term “reverse discrimination.” Discrimination is just always discrimination.

    If I didn’t pick up on anything in nursing school I learned that we are advocates; for our patients, for our fellow nurses, and for healthcare in general. I’ve never given up on that belief. But like so many others have said no one seems to be listening. I’ve been at my current position for 3 years now. Moved my family to Texas to open a beautiful new hospital. I also had grand delusions of finally being part of a blank slate and the opportunity to do the right thing and to have a less restricted path at growth. Boy was I wrong. For 3 years now we have been fighting the same screwed up things that were happening in the other 2 hospitals in town. The middle management are all hand me downs from those institutions who know each other and are buddies with each other. Absolutely nothing is getting done except staff being stretched thin, assignments getting dangerous, etc. and I’ve now been labeled the trouble maker because I have the audacity to advocate.

    My caveat is Im the sole bread winner. We’re 800 miles from the closest thing to family. I have a beautiful wife and 3 wonderful kids. We’re not wealthy but my kids don’t have to worry about were their next meal is going to come from. My wife is able to stay at home with our younger ones…. How do I give that security? Burn out doesn’t describe it. I had a five year plan to progress away from floor nursing. I’ve tried 3 times to start my Masters and 3 times Ive had to drop. Between family needs and feeling obligated to help out my fellow nurses,I just have not been able to put the time into it I need to. As a matter of fact I had to call Drexel yesterday to ask them to push back starting attempt number 4. To be perfectly honest a couple incentive shifts go along way to helping us out. Why do I need to chose? Why am I trying so hard to grow in a profession that docent seem to have much interest in my growth?

  • Kimmy

    I have only been at my nursing job for 3 months and have had a very hard time getting into it as as well. I had the same problem in Nursing School but stuck with it because of a government scholarship. I still have to keep with it for about 2 more years if I don’t want to pay the government back. Is it really worth it if you aren’t happy though?